Typically when we got to a job interview, we put our best foot and face forward. There are lots of smiles and nods. We tend to agree with everything that the person interviewing us says. We laugh at their jokes and tell them everything they want to hear, even if it’s not exactly the full version of the truth. Sad but true, this is the way things are in today’s economy.

Being interviewed by a couple as their prospective wedding photographer is no different from any other job interview. There is an advantage because we have work samples to show and truthfully, this is a short term job. We’re temps, when you get right down to it. This doesn’t mean you should take your position any less seriously. If selected, you are one of very few people contributing to the most important day of a couple’s lives. Honestly, this is a gift and an honor that should be treated with respect. That said, to be successful, you need to make money, and sometimes that means taking a job that is less than perfect for you.

As a wedding photographer, you will not always see eye to eye with the party that you are working for. Unfortunately, personality conflicts may not always be immediately apparent. Once contracts are signed and deposits are paid, it seems like it’s too late to turn back. However, many times, this is when you, as the wedding photographer start seeing signs of a troubled business relationship. Don’t be afraid to speak up. Voice your opinions, but do so gently.

Brides are under a lot of stress and are under many constraints, finance and time wise. If you feel that you are being treated unfairly by the bridal party or feel that demands are being made of you that are outside of what you have agreed to in your contract, ask for a meeting to discuss a solution. If the situation between you and the other party has become heated, make sure to meet at a neutral, public location. It is less likely that a bride will lose her cool and raise her voice in public. You may want to bring an outside party to help negotiate any issues, or to be a witness on your behalf, as well. In the event contracts are broken, it will be beneficial to have someone on your side.

While no one ever wants to lose business or leave a business relationship on bad terms, you as a professional deserve to be treated with respect. Regardless of what stressors the bride may have on her, you are providing her with a service and had a choice to enter into this business contract, just as she did. If you feel uncomfortable with the situation, you have two choices. First, you can turn a deaf ear to the situation, stick to the terms that you’ve agreed to and complete your work as promised or you can end your contract. Do what is best for you, personally and professionally. The old saying goes “if you can’t take the heat, get out of the kitchen.” It’s never bad to cut your loses and make the best business decision for yourself.